Reactivity usually stems from stress, and stress can come from all sorts of places - work deadlines, personal expectations, or simply the daily juggling act of life. When we’re in a state of stress, our nervous system goes into overdrive.
A trigger is anything in your environment that taps into an unresolved emotional wound. It’s the salt on the wound. If you had a physical cut on your hand and someone poured salt on it, it would hurt. But if your skin was healed, the salt wouldn’t bother you at all.
Reactivity is a survival mechanism. When we react, it’s because our nervous system perceives a threat, even if it’s not an immediate physical danger. Reactivity is fast, automatic, and exaggerated—our bodies are primed to act quickly to avoid harm.
Parenting young children is often described as one of the most challenging phases of a relationship. It’s a time [usually] filled with joy and love but also one that brings immense pressure.